I know it’s already almost February now, but I wanted to share something with you that I’ve been mulling over, savoring, and cultivating in my mind for a while. It’s a big part of my personal development journey, which really kicked into gear in 2017. I learned a lot about myself and goal setting and personal improvement strategies in 2017. But I found that one concept was truly key to everything else. I realized it was the most important thing I’d really learned all year.
For as long as I can remember, I have cared about improving upon myself as a person. I’ve always had big dreams, big ambitions. But I never truly knew how to accomplish them. There were all sorts of places I could lay blame. However, another important thing I’ve learned is that we really do have 100% control over our lives. We have 100% control over our destinies. It’s not as easy as it sounds, but it’s absolutely vital to becoming the person you need to be to gain what you want in life. And that’s the secret to success.
One year ago, I finally started to get serious about personal development. I wanted to improve my skills in goal-achieving (something I didn’t even know existed at the time) so that I could finally start achieving the level of success I’ve always wanted, and feeling more fulfilled than I ever had before.
I started with a video series I found online called the “67 Steps to Success,” by Tai Lopez. The videos started to change my way of thinking about success. They helped me understand exactly what one needs to do and the attitude one needs to have to achieve it. The very first step was the most important thing that I learned all year. However, it would take a long time and a lot more work before it really sank in.
Towards the end of the 67 Steps, I joined a team of Beachbody coaches. If you know anything about Beachbody, you know that they are a health and fitness company and the creators behind hugely successful programs such as 21 Day Fix, Insanity, and P90X. But what you might not know is that personal development is also a HUGE part of the Beachbody culture. This was a surprise to me when I started. As a PD noob I struggled to keep up with the rest of the team. But I kept trying, and little by little I was doing more every day. Finally in August, I ordered two books that were constantly being recommended to me, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. I was excited to devour these books and put them to work.
I was excited because it all finally started becoming clear to me. This concept that would be the most important thing I learned all year long. As Jim Rohn was quoted saying in Miracle Morning, “Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.”
Tai Lopez says in the very first step of the 67 Steps, “To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want.” What he means is that you must deserve the success you want by being the kind of person who deserves it. By putting in the effort to make small actions every day towards becoming a better person and achieving your goals, you will become the kind of person with the kind of success you want.
It wasn’t until I read a similar Jim Rohn quote in The Compound Effect when this concept finally started to stick for me: “If you want to have more, you have to become more. Success is not something you pursue. What you pursue will elude you; it can be like trying to chase butterflies. Success is something you attract by the person you become.”
Make a commitment to yourself today to invest in yourself. Invest in personal development tools and, more importantly, invest your TIME into using those personal development tools. I still struggle with doing personal development every day. It can be especially hard when we have so many responsibilities in life, such as being a good mother or a great dog mom. However, I can honestly say that I have been completely changed by doing just a little whenever I can. It took me a long time to fully realize that doing personal development work WAS a direct action I could take in reaching my goals.
Whatever you want in life, you can have as long as you become the person you need to be to have, and to deserve those things. It takes time, it takes effort, but it is an important and positive action to work on yourself. I hope this post inspired you to continue working on yourself. Working on yourself is the first step in reaching your dreams.